How to Have Sex 101: Ultimate Tips For Better Sex


Kait Sanders

August 5, 2019


Do you want to learn how to have sex? After all, sex is one of life’s best experiences. Unfortunately, it doesn’t automatically come with an instruction manual—until now! If you want to have amazing sex, then this guide is for you. Check out how to have sex 101 below!


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Forget what you’ve seen in the movies

The first thing to know is that sex is not exactly what you see in porn. In almost every sex scene, the lovers thrust thoroughly and fall in bed within minutes. In real life, you don’t have to rush to enjoy sex. Instead, you should take time to enjoy every moment that builds to a climax. Another problem with porn is that everyone is always incredibly eager. Every man you see in the videos gets instant, rock-hard erections. The reality is that most actors use male enhancement pills like Viagra. So don’t get discouraged if you’re not ready to pound her in 10 seconds flat.

The other problem with sex movies is that actors get erections that never go down while they’re fucking. This is normal for men under 40. For older men, erections can subside during sex. When you get intimate, this is a chance to tease your lover and build anticipation. This is a seductive journey, not a rush to the finish.


Learn her sensitive areas

When you learn the right areas to touch your woman, you’ll drive her wild. You should put more effort into foreplay to make her climax. Identify the spots that cause immense sexual stimulation. The erogenous zones differ from one woman to another. These can include the clitoris, the G-spot, the lips, behind the knees, nipples, and the neck, among other areas. Before the main event, you should master your foreplay techniques. This will make her climax harder and faster. With time, you’ll realize that foreplay is the most pleasurable part of sex.

Learn different sex techniques

Other than your average missionary position, there’re many sex positions and techniques to try. If you want to become great in bed, you have to start somewhere, right. One of the most exciting sex positions is a cowgirl. She simply straddles you and use her hands to play with herself. This gives women incredible sexual confidence. Other styles you should try include doggy, three-legged dog, spoon, the bridge, and more. The possibilities are endless. Take time to learn about positions and how they feel to both you and your lover. Once you know how your body works, you can switch different positions and mix things up. Trust us, it’ll never get boring if you’re willing to experiment with various techniques.


Focus on her sensations and last longer

If you’re having sex with a woman, premature ejaculation can be a nightmare. The main reason why men have problems with this is lousy masturbation habits. You have to get fit and fix your health. When your penis is hard, the blood vessels open up, making you get hard erections. Focus on exercises that keep your heart elevated for at least 30 minutes. This will keep you physically active for longer. Once you’ve worked on how to control erections, make her orgasm first. And if things get too hot, pull out for a few minutes and focus on her. This will help you regain control of your orgasms.

It’s a good idea to remove any and all negative thoughts in your mind. Worrying about your performance will do nothing but negatively affect the experience. If you’re comfortable talking to your woman, try discussing your worries beforehand. If things go wrong during the actual act, good communication can help wonders.


Bring backup sex toys

For many people, toys are a huge turn-on. Having toys does not mean you want to replace your partner. Many women require clitoral stimulation, so there’s nothing wrong having new toys in your bedroom to spice things up. If you go into a deep conversation about sex toys, it has nothing to do with sexual dissatisfaction.

So, how do you bring up the topic? Every time your partner is aroused, this can be a good time to try new sexual experiences. It’s easier to talk about sex toys when both of you are aroused. When you show your partner that you want her, you can have more fun. Sex toys will give her better orgasm, which will provide more pleasure for you as well. It’s a win-win!


Compliment her in bed

When you give your woman compliments as you enjoy sex, she will enjoy the ride even more. Let her know she has nice eyes and lips, and a smoking hot body. Avoid generic compliments. Go a step further and identify the best features. Focus on body parts but avoid sounding weird. Talk about her hair, skin, and nails. Your girl wants to be assured you find her sexy and attractive in every single way. This can be the icing on the cake to boost her mood.

Tell her how comfortable you feel when you’re with her. When you’re going down on her, let her know she tastes amazing. In no time, she will explode with orgasm. These compliments will do wonders in the bedroom because women love to hear about how hot and sexy they look, smell, taste, and feel.


Take charge while having sex

There’s nothing more frustrating to a woman than seeing him take the back seat when it comes to sex. If you’re in a rut, take control of the situation. Initiate the act by picking when and how to have sex. If you’re waiting for her to suggest that she get on top, switch it up. This makes her feel good. While it may sound weird to talk dirty, describe how her body feels on you. If you want to take things to the next level, try some new techniques. Be sure to do your homework to know what she likes. Get her hot, take her panties off, and show that you’ve got it under control.

Everyone wants to have great sex. But it doesn’t come with instructions! You have to do your homework and learn how to please a woman. You have the chance to become a man who gets laid whenever and wherever he wants. Learning how to have sex takes time and patience. Remember, practice makes perfect!

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